忠言逆耳Falling on deaf ears
A young man engaged my service to read his birth chart.
I advised， “Don’t get married too early.”
There would be serious repercussion if he did so.
He said, “I had already proposed to my girlfriend. There’s no turning back now. ”
After he got married, I again advised, “Don’t have children.”
The couple are not blessed with a great deal of merits. The child they bore would exhaust them and burden them with troubles.
He said to his wife, “If we do not have a child, what is the point of getting married?”
After their first child was born, there was no one to take care of her. The young man came to me and asked if his wife should quit her job to care for the baby.
I said, “The birth chart of this child is not in your favour. Let your wife stay on to her job! It’s better to continue working and save more money for rainy days.”
I deduced from the Bazi of the wife that she doesn’t fall into the virtuous wife category, thus would be incapable of handling both the baby and the upkeep of the house. I could foretell that there would be help coming forward to look after the baby.
They said, “Since we chose to have the child, let’s look after her ourselves.”
Consequently, the young man returned home from work with no home-cooked dinner to look forward to. He walked to the kitchen to get himself a cup of water, only to find the jug empty. When questioned by the husband on the lack of drinking water, the wife retorted: “Can’t you boil the water yourself? I was busy the whole day! ”
The wife soon became tired, both mentally and physically, from taking care of the active toddler. When the toddler became of age, the couple spent a thousand dollars each month to send the child to a day care centre. When a relative came to know of this, she lamented: “Aiya, why send the child to a day care at such young age? I can help you to take care of her. ”
I met the wife after some time and found her to have aged and looking malnourished due to taking care of her child for less than a year. Even the child appeared smaller in size compared to her peers. When I visited their home for a Feng Shui audit, the living room was in a mess. With the young man being the sole breadwinner, life was lived frugally.
The young man consulted me to choose a business for him to start. Despite numerous advice, he did not take any action.
He said , “I am unable to overcome my limited self-belief.”
Our whole life is filled with secrets hidden in our facial features, bones structure, body shape, birth charts, names, our habits and postures and the environment we live in. I am the decoder of these secrets.
Our destiny is 80% pre-determined and 20% yet to be fixed. That is why we still have a heaven-sent chance to shape our life, despite the great difficulty in this task. Some of us lack the merits to have their life ‘decoded’, while others are unable to meet a qualified master. There are also others who would scoff in disbelief or disregard when such topics are broached. And there are those who believe in altering their lives, have the luck to meet a good master but yet make nothing out of it.
There is no need to be envious of others. If you want to do well, I can show you the way. It is a pity that the wisdom of many people are killed by their own egocentrism.
This small family is in a sorry state. It is such a waste that the young man had many chances to turn his life around, but alas, the life forces of the 3 of them are in a constant state of conflict. The result is a perpetual state of stress and unhappiness. There are countless sufferings in life, but none can be compared to the inability to recognize suffering when you are in it.
“You can lead a horse to water, but you cannot make it drink. You can lead a man to knowledge, but you cannot make him think.”
*This article is published online with the prior permission of the young man. He hopes that by sharing his story, more people will be motivated to have the strength to rapidly improve their lives.
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