是愛更是債A Massive Debt of Love

還沒證得智慧前，吾的思想與一般眾生，並無太大的距離，也會編織未來的夢，想要有個家。吾的意識是指，屬於自己的家。這個家要有女主人，有無小孩並不重要，男主外女主內。吾不要求女主人一定要會煮，但日常喝的水，希望她會煮。哈哈哈！

吾的夢想爲何破碎了

日子一天一天的過去，吾所編織的夢，也一天一天的退去，在不知不覺中，年華似水流，生命隨著因緣，進入佛學時期。吾不敢說，吾是非常精進的，但吾真的很努力地研讀佛書，然後實踐於日常生活之中，也從日常生活中，應證佛法。吾的心得，生活即是佛法，佛法也即是生活。吾也終於明白，為何那些皈依學佛多年的佛弟子，十年如一日般地毫無長進。

吾的工作不只讓吾豐富了吾的閱歷，及增廣見聞，同時也讓吾快速應證，佛所說的真實而不虛。吾的智慧也就因為這樣，自自然然地突飛猛進。所有來找吾的人，所有呈現在吾眼前的影像，一看就可知是愛還是害，是債還是愛，是合還是離，是禍還是福，是報還是討…

親情的真實相！

如果妳你已結婚多年，依然沒有子女，正想著去求神拜佛，又或者「東問西問」的，玳瑚師父勸妳你，不要去求也不要去問，因為抱在你手裡的，很少是來報恩的。就算是來報恩的，妳你的牙齒也差不多掉光了。還有那些如膠似漆的男男女女，妳你可別羨慕的太早。他們前世，不是冤家，就是敵對的。這世的恩愛，是愛更是債啊！

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Before I attained any wisdom, my thinking and mindset were not much different from other sentient beings. Like them, I also had my dreams, a dream of having my own home. A home with a lady-in-charge. It does not matter if we have kids or are childless. The man will take charge of all external matters while the lady of the house manages domestic affairs. I do not expect her to have culinary skills, but I hope she at least can boil some water for drinking. Hahaha!

How my dreams were “dashed”

As the days became years, the dream I weaved was also slipping away day by day. Before I knew it, the years flowed by like water, and through affinity, my life entered a phase of discovering and learning the Dharma. I dare not say that I am top in terms of diligence, but I really strived very hard to learn and actualize the Dharma in my daily life. It was also from the daily moments in my life that I constantly obtain realizations about the Dharma. The essence, I discovered during this period, was life itself is the Dharma, and vice versa. I finally found the answer to the question: Why do so many Buddhists, despite the many years spent, fail to make progress in their spiritual practice?

My work not only enriches my experience. At the same time, it provides swift realizations that, beyond any doubt,the Dharma is the absolute Truth. It was through all these that my wisdom grew by leaps and bounds. For all the people who have sought my help, and all the scenarios that unfolded in front of me, I am able to tell, in a snap of the fingers, if it was love or revenge, debt or love, union or separation, tragedy or fortune, to repay or to seek repayment…

The truth behind marriage and children

If you have been married for years but childless, and are desperate to seek divine answers from the Gods or Buddhas, or just about anywhere, here is a word of advice from Master Dai Hu: Do not go onto such a path. For when your wish come true, the baby in your arms is unlikely to show any debt of gratitude. Even if he or she eventually does, you might have already lost all your teeth (old age)! Also, please do not be envious of the lovey-dovey couples around you, those that get stuck to each other like super glue! These couples were bitter enemies with each other in their previous lives! Their deep affection for each other in this lifetime is both a deep love and a massive debt!